There are days when the feeling of success just completely eludes you, when failure just seems to envelope you. Those are the days when you seem to have to fight for everything. But it isn’t so.
As hard as it maybe seem, this is time when you need to dig deep within you and draw on what you know to be true; that you are a SUCCESS in all that you do, even if the results aren’t what you expected.
I have blogging here for a while and it has been more for self development. I also write for other sites mainly having to do with relationships. One of my articles caught the editor’s eye and they have published it on their home page.
It is different from what is normally posted here, but please as wonderful followers take a look and feel free to leave comments:
I haven’t written much in a long time because I couldn’t figure out what I wanted to write about. I keep asking myself, “What do I want to write about?” “What is important to talk about?” And I came up with “How about getting what you want?”
Everyone says they deserve the best, but how many of us truly believe it? Clearly not a lot, and it is evident in the number of poor and unhappy people in the world. Most of us feel guilty about having things, we feel selfish if we go after what we want, we hide behind what other people think and what they perceive us to be. Some of are even indoctrinated into thinking that having money is a sin! (The people without usually come up with this).
We need to step out of our comfort zone, go for what we want and know that we deserve it and we WILL get it, the doors will open and what we really and truly want will become clear and answers/solutions will be right there.
“I am in tune with the Infinite and I can do what needs to be done. Through the power that dwells within me I can succeed, I can overcome, I can be what I want to be, I can have what I truly want.”
There are days when we just feel like giving up, when everything seems so insurmountable. DON’T GIVE UP!
This is when we need to dig deep. Do not be discouraged, have FAITH. Be patient and at the same time be persistent in your endeavor. When it seems the darkest, that’s when you need to persist, know in your heart that what it is you are doing, is what you should be doing.
If you have doubts, then maybe your aren’t doing it for the right reasons. Look at why you are having these doubts, are they your doubts or the doubts of others? Reevaluate why you are doing what you are doing. But above all else DON’T GIVE UP!
Sometimes we need help in staying and/or reevaluating or course, seek help. Whether from friends, support group, life coach etc. Just DON’T GIVE UP!
How many of you are in relationships and finding fault with the other person(s)? How many of you are taking on the project of trying to change the “offending” party and justified it by saying one of the following:
“But I just want them to change because I love them so much” (you probably do love them, that’s not the issue) or “I just know that if they meditated and prayed, they’d be better off; (they probably would; meditation and prayer have been proven to be effective) or “I just know if they followed a low-fat diet, dropped that extra weight, and lowered their cholesterol, they’d be happier” (this may be true too).
Stop trying to justify your what you are doing and answer the following question, regardless of the reasons, who are you really trying to change?
Trying to change others to be the way we think they should be or the way we want them to be is a recipe for disaster. No one likes to be another person’s project. And while it is certainly true that we can and do influence each other, lasting change only happens when an individual makes that choice for him or herself.
People don’t change because we want them to; they change because they want to. It doesn’t matter how clever, how noble, how skilled, how manipulative we might be, people only make lasting changes when they are willing and ready to do so. Period.
We can certainly help and support others to change, but only when the time is right. Have you noticed that when you jump in uninvited (no matter what the motivation), your efforts are seldom met warmly? But when another reaches out to you and invites you in, saying, “I’m struggling, and I could use some help,” or “I’d like your opinion,” or “I’d like your help in making a change,” the exchange is entirely different. Then, whatever you have learned along your life’s journey can be shared, and it will likely be helpful and appreciated.
So instead of trying to make other people be like us, why don’t we instead learn to accept—and enjoy—the great and wonderful diversity of human expression.
Everyone wants to find that special someone, but before that can happen ask yourself, how special do you think you are? Don’t think you are that special? Then how can you expect to find a special someone when you don’t consider yourself to be special? Special here is not referring to egotistical boasting, it is referring to how valuable you are to YOU!
How can somebody be right for you, when you aren’t even right for yourself? If you are not comfortable with yourself it is highly unlikely that being with someone will make you comfortable! As a matter of fact, the unease will show up and you will more than likely blame your partner for it.
So before finding the ‘right’ person, you need to be at ease with the here and now and become at ease with yourself.
You need to have a loving relationship with yourself in order to have one with someone else!
Most people have ideas of what their ideal relationship(s) would be like, but most people don’t get that kind of relationship and they wonder why.
My question is “is the kind of relationship you want, the kind of relationship you are having with yourself?”.